Phil Mercer

Monday, May 21, 2007

Western Canada (Part 2) THE WEDDING!

 

Draft: The main reason for the visit to Canada - or at least a good excuse to go - was a wedding of a friend of Gareth's. The thing with weddings, a phrase heard many times, is that they make me cringe! This one was a pleasant surprise. It had it's cheesy moments, but generally it was well done.

I've often hoped that one day i'll be in a place to get "married". I wonder if my folks will be as accepting as Phil and Scott's have been. Sexuality has not been an issue for the ceremony - and why should it be! It is a rite to acknowledge that two people love each other and wish to mark a commitment both publicly and to the state.

I do still find it a little odd - there is no benefit directly to the state for two guys getting hitched. It's not like they will have a family* that will help keep the country going in future years. * I realise that it is now getting easier for fostering, adoption etc but most gay men i know are far to selfish to actually do that!

It is, however, a way that family can nod their head to the choice of someone they brought in to the world. For the state it's important to be seen to be equal. Whats the problem with a little wedding here and there when ten percent of your population work hard and pick up the slack when those with a family need a day off to look after little Johnny!

Could i do it? I still don't know. It's all academic anyway as i still haven't found that man. But hypothesizing it wont take a great effort. I'm very public-ceremony-phobic so I would find it very difficult to actually enjoy such an event and would have to be sure that my family are okay with it, something as I have already mentioned, I am not sure about. I like the idea of a very informal gathering, without much pomp and circumstance. Something meaningful, but not over blown. And no white suits!

# posted by Phil @ 6:53 am

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